It’s Wonderful to be Ditched

I think BL and I just broke up. I think… I got back from Tenggol. We had sex. He asked me if I have a ‘yee gong’ (the male equivalent of a ‘yee lai’ or mistress). I said the politically right thing. He wanted my blessings to pursue his future wife. I gave him more than blessings. He packed most of his remaining clothes the next morning. And that was it. No fuss, no tears, no awkward conversations. I am FREEE!!!!!

It's Just Play

Just came back from a wonderful week in Tenggol with M. Despite the 43 sandfly bites that I am nursing now and the dilapidated room, it was a pretty good trip. Dive sites were good and so was the company.

I have gotten much better at my diving now I have gained more confidence with my gear. M is a great dive buddy. I know he will always be looking out for me.

Something remarkable happened too. After an 18-month hiatus, we had one fiery session. I have never had it so good for a while. Perhaps it was all the yearning. As always, with that touch of roughness that I like.

If there is one thing that I have learned these last few months, it’s that sex is not the definition of a relationship, and certainly not the destination of any company. It is just play, one of the many plays we engage in once in a while. With it, love continues to be given and shared.