We complete outselves.
If we haven't the power to complete ourselves, the search for love becomes a search for self-annihilation, then we try to convince ourselves that self-annihilation is love
[Erica Jong]
When I told a friend this, he commented that we have just made Jerry Mcguire totally irrelevant. Ironic isn't - what romantic Hollywood movies plants in our naive little minds.
We always have tendencies to lose ourselves in life... it's always a fine line between the good ol' mom-always-told-me "give-and-take la" and compromising our own needs.
It's not easy you now, to continuously convince yourself that you don't need people to complete you. Because you do need them in many ways. Regardless of how confident one is, on a daily basis, we crave for approval from soceity, from bosses, from friends.
In uni, the word "teamwork" was drilled deep down into my skull. Now, I have to go individualism... life is indeed confusing.
I tried, I really did try not to lose myself with DK. I filled my days with my work, my marketing plans, my visions, my ambitions, my dreams and my fantasies. I made known what I wanted, and when I was happy or unhappy. But despite what seemed to me a successful project of staying true to my soul, after a year and a heart-breaking episode, I think I did perhaps lose a little too much of myself.
Is Erica's phrase too idealistic, too romantic? Can we ever really do that - to remain as we are, and yet to hope that the other person will work into to our mold. I have met friends who compromised and still have a wonderful relationship (or at least it seems). Are they fooling themselves - that they were indeed meant for each other?
Or perhaps it's people like me who steadfastly believe in such silly phrases - that someday someone who would be the exact fit would bounce along - are we the foolish ones?
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